Ableism and relativism: Finding a difference

If we didn’t have ableist ideas as a society, then selective abortion wouldn’t exist. Because there wouldn’t be this idea of a better or worse child.
goldenheartedrose 

I respectfully disagree. Ableism isn’t discrimination against people with disabilities. If I have a friend who is in a wheelchair, not inviting them to go mountain climbing with me isn’t me being ableist, it is me not being an asshole. I am recognizing that they have a disability, and changing my behavior based on that fact. That is, technically speaking, discrimination. It isn’t a bad thing, and it isn’t something that I would want to myself or others to avoid. I don’t offer standard store bought cake to a friend who can’t eat wheat, and the examples go on. Ableism, therefore, must be (usually negative) discrimination against people with disabilities above and beyond what is reasonable/good/ok. 

A child who is deaf and has severe impulse control problems causes more stress and more problems for parents than a child born without anything that we would diagnose. The parents don’t think that such a child would be a worse human being, but the child would be a more troublesome child. A parent is therefore not morally wrong for wanting their child to not have any physical or mental disabilities. They don’t believe that a deaf child is a worse child, but given the choice, they would rather have a child who can communicate and interpret the world the way everybody else can. Is that so wrong?

Notes

  1. goldenheartedrose reblogged this from karalianne and added:
    Yep, I bet the op is enjoying the hell out of this.And I’m left feeling like I’ve spent too much energy arguing for...
  2. deducecanoe reblogged this from goldenheartedrose and added:
    I have been pretty much off tumblr the last few days then I come back to find this shitstorm. Fuck, man. FUCK. Ok. I...
  3. karalianne reblogged this from goldenheartedrose and added:
    Hey, my knee-jerk response last night? Hello, ADHD! I didn’t realize it was a thought experiment until this morning when...
  4. dataandphilosophy reblogged this from goldenheartedrose and added:
    My mountain climbing example serves to illustrate my point about ableism, that it is not just discrimination of any sort...
  5. supraliminally reblogged this from goldenheartedrose and added:
    I don’t agree with the person you responded to, rose, but I have to say that on principle I’m a little bit wary of...
  6. autistpsyche reblogged this from goldenheartedrose
  7. notyourprettylittleprincess reblogged this from goldenheartedrose and added:
    omg dataandphilosophy. you have ‘one friend in a wheelchair.’ egethbr i can’t really make coherent arguments right now...
  8. janus-ra-and-eris reblogged this from dataandphilosophy and added:
    I think it is wrong. Its a form of eugenics and that has negative impacts on the disabled community. When you say that...